Newness

Something I've been thinking about lately is how humans are so wired to seek newness and how quickly things get boring, whether it's a new relationship, a travel destination or material possessions etc. It stems from our primal urge to hunt, seek and find and it triggers a dopamine rush when we get what we want. Personally, I think it is one of the most challenging things about being human and one of the roots of addiction. Addiction to highs, resulting in dissatisfaction with boredom. There is a purpose for it and without that unsatisfied feeling we wouldn't grow and seek change.

Being ok with mundane life is one of the hardest things to achieve, being ok in that neutral place inside that is neither high or low. But once you find it, it can be one of the most satisfying and peaceful feelings.

I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments below. Is it hard for you to feel content? Is there a purpose with feeling unsatisfied?

Things I've learned about Thailand

So far I've been having a good time riding around on a scooter with my husband, seeing the city and all its diversity. Chiang Mai has pretty much anything you're looking for, from cozy small European cafés and old towns to modern shopping centers. You can try a different restaurant every time you go out to eat and the living expenses are about 50% of what they are on Maui. If you go to a restaurant that caters to the tourists, the menu will most likely display the range of spiciness. If you go to a restaurant that has a lot of locals, you might want to ask for "less spicy".

Most Thai people don't speak a lot of English, so I've learned three words so far: thank you "Khob khun ka", hello "Sah wah dee khrap!", and they call Caucasians "farong". If you want to get food to go you say "takeaway" and if you need to use the restroom you say "toilet". When you are ready for your check at a restuarant, point your finger downward and stir in a circular motion.

There are a lot of trip hazards, especially when entering bathrooms because the way they clean the floors is by hosing them and letting the water go down the drain. In a lot of places they do not provide napkins, paper towels, toilet seat covers or toilet paper, so it is good to carry some with you. Trash cans are also harder to find.

Businesses close really late, most locals work at least 10-hour days, so you can go to the dentist at 6 pm or get a massage at 8 pm.

A few downsides of living in a city in Thailand is that the air quality is very bad and they have a rice burning season, just like they used to on Maui. Usually the summers are incredibly muggy and hot, but we have lucked out with the weather and most of the time it has been pretty overcast. Luckily the cost of A/C is affordable here. It's been really nice living in a bigger apartment that costs about four times less than on Maui. I suspect it will be a challenging adjustment returning to our tiny cottage back home...

Venturing out into the World!

Well folks, I finally made it out the front door to explore the wonders of Chiang Mai! It really helps to have my husband here as an experienced tour guide. Riding around on a scooter, zooming through the traffic, is the fastest way to get through the city. Here, everyone drives on the left side of the road. I expected Thailand to be a crappy, ugly and polluted third world country, but it turns out there is a wide range of options from poor class to high class. The nice thing is you can live luxuriously for very cheap. If there's one thing I love, it's saving money! There are quite a few healthy cafés, customer service is on point and I love that there is so much green tropical vegetation. Rudeness and hostility does not exist in this culture. It is very muggy, but hasn't been too hot luckily. I got a Thai massage for the first time, it basically felt like I was getting beat up, but very relaxing. 

One thing I miss is the ocean. Back home in Maui I go to the beach almost every day. However, there is a really nice pool in our apartment building and a gym, so I won't let myself get fat during this two-month vacation. So far... what's not to like? 

Oh, and we've also been spending our time saving a bird that fell out of the nest onto our balcony. We named him Mr. Splits and we suspect his mama is still around feeding him because he is pooping a bunch! We provided shade for him, are giving him water and feeding him bread soaked in soup. He seems to be growing and getting stronger every day!

"How's Thailand?"

So people have been asking, "How are you liking Thailand"? Well, the answer is, it's been two days and I haven't left the apartment. I've always felt like a cat trapped in a human body, so when I first come to a new environment I simply stay on the bed the first few days. All I've been doing is sleeping, listening to music, reconnecting with my husband (after being apart for a month) and enjoying an abundance of dragonfruit in bed. It doesn't take much to make this girl happy. Maybe tomorrow I'll be ready to open the front door. 

The Long Trip

July 1st, 2019 at 10 AM, I started off by flying from Maui to Oahu, a short 40-minute flight. From there I hopped on to a 10-hour flight with Asiana Airlines from Oahu to Seoul, South Korea. For the first time in my life I flew business class! It made the whole experience so much more enjoyable and not torturous. I was served lots of good quality meals and drinks (appetizer, entree AND dessert), the Asians provide better customer service than any other culture I've experienced, I could lay down and sleep, I wasn't sitting next to anyone, there was plenty of space to move, easy restroom access... it actually felt more like being on a cruise ship! Being raised poor, it was hard for me at first to accept being pampered like that, but finally I gave in and just enjoyed the experience. 

Once I arrived in Seoul, I had the luxury of going to the Asiana Club business lounge during my two-hour layover, where they provide showers, massage chairs, food and refreshments. I got a feel for the Korean culture, very disciplined and together, almost a bit militant. Very similar to my Swedish culture.

The next flight was also business class, five hours from Seoul to Bangkok, Thailand. From there I took a shuttle to a nice hotel, BS Suvarnabhumi Residence (only $20 a night) and got to shower and get a good night's sleeeep after 19 hours of traveling.

Finally, July 3rd I flew to my final destination Chiang Mai, where my husband met me at the airport and we went to his big apartment that he has been leasing.

Going to Thailand!

Hi friends! It's been a while since I went on a big adventure, so this time I will be sharing with you all my trip to Thailand! My husband has been going back and fourth the past year and a half to get dental work. It has been really challenging for our marriage, being away from each other months at a time, and being the obsessive business woman that I am, I haven't wanted to put my life on hold in Maui. This time around I finally decided to go with him for two months. For the first time I am prioritizing relationships over getting ahead in life. I've had a huge resistance to going to Thailand because it's never been on my bucket list, I've never been attracted to third world countries and traveling long distance feels like torture to me. Stay tuned!

It's Happening

Wednesday, February 8, 2017: 

Well folks, it's happening. I am following my inspiration and practicing trusting and it's working. I wanted to see if Maui would open her doors to me when I flew back to the nest after my trip, and she is. 

The morning of my 29th birthday, I found out I got a job teaching "Creative Movement" at Horizon's Academy in Kihei, to kids with special needs. I was referred to MAPA by my friend who recently returned to the islands. She happened to be at my Bellydance gig at the Mana Kai. I am getting good feedback from the caretakers that the kids are doing things they normally can't do, smiling more and concentrating better. It makes my heart happy and adds meaning to my life that I am making a difference. Every time I teach, I am reminded of how much I enjoy it and it's simply this feeling of, "YES! This is it." 

The evening of my birthday I was contacted out of the blue by my 3rd grade teacher. She is now the director of "Turnaround Arts Hawaii", Hawaii's first public arts integration school. She said she could introduce me to the director of Maui Dance Council!
http://mauiarts.org/arts_education 

I also got in with Hawaii Princess Party. They are just starting to expand from the Big Island to Maui.
http://www.hawaiiprincessparty.com/

These are my Ariel, Rapunzel and Tinkerbell looks:

In the past I have been motivated by ego, seeking recognition and approval through performing and being on stage. I have been motivated by fear of not having financial security and thinking that the meaning of life is paying your bills. I am really learning to trust that even if I don't know how something will work out, it always does in the perfect time. When fear no longer motivates you, inspiration does. An astrologer told me a big part of my life path and purpose is moving from being a receiver, to a giver. Saturn return, here I come!

I also made a new friend who is my age, lives really close to my street and coincidentally happens to be from Santa Barbara! She is a speech therapist and currently working with an autistic child.